It should be my constant prayer to ask the Lord to help me to stop looking through the lenses of shortcomings, expiration dates, and judgment, but to accept people and things for who and what they are and enjoy them. To laugh. To learn. To appreciate. This gives an entirely new meaning to the expression "living in the moment."
The way I view time, unwanted conversation, "boring" people, and the daily hustle aren't with the eyes of joy and gratitude like they should be nor does this please God the Father who Himself is joy (1 John 4:8).
The root cause of my meanness, better yet my "me-ness," is selfishness. Selfishness and joy are not related. In fact, they're opposites. Selfishness is pseudo-joy. Selfishness does not consider the thoughts, attitudes, or well-being of others while joy does consider the thoughts, attitudes, and well-being of others. When joy takes root in the heart, a wellspring of love, gratitude, and laughter become evident fruit. The welfare of others also becomes a higher priority which means stronger relationships with the people you already know and more than likely, new relationships.
That's why it is essential that I rid myself of this selfishness and the "my four and no more" mentality by being willing to enrich someone else's life by simply giving what I have: my time and any other resource that fits someone else's situational need. I ought to consider it a privilege that anyone would want to talk to me and even though I am a productive man (I'm not too fond of the word 'busy' because it implies meaningless activity), I can still call back or text back when I do find the time or rekindle conversation when I'm not so occupied.